You know how heat of the moment decisions can sometimes lead to less than desirable affects? We certainly do, and it happens to the best of us. What would you say though, if we told you there was a way to prevent (or at least, mediate) these misunderstandings and poor judgment calls? Hopefully, you’re up for the challenge, because Just Be wants to help you understand that all you’ve got to do is: know yourself. Sure, it sounds cheesy and cliché but it really is the method to success when it comes to knowing how to best make decisions for yourself, relate with others, problem solve and discover what you truly need. Local author Lida Citroen is one of the nation’s most sought after brand management consultants and she works with local veterans, professionals and politicians alike to coach and guide them to discovering and representing their most authentic selves on social media, on a resume and everything in between. Lida’s book Reputation 360: Creating Power through Personal Branding offers some great tips for helping people to discover, develop and represent their most authentic selves and Just Be has borrowed a few of these tips and tricks to share with you here. It all starts with three powerful lists: what do I need, want and value?

These three lists, while short and sweet are exactly the sorts of things we should ask ourselves on a daily basis in order to better understand what best suits us in our decision making, in our conversations and in our professional or personal lives. Knowing these things about ourselves is important for many reasons but especially when we think about how we want to articulate these things to others or how we’d like to navigate the world in tough times. Do you know what you want out of your next team meeting? Can you discuss with your significant other what you need from your relationship? May be so, if not though, take some time to think about the things below and how your answers can help create “relatability” with others and help you understand your stake in each and every situation.

List 1: What do I need?

Emotionally: What type of validation, affirmation and praise (if any) do you need to feel emotionally whole?

Financially: How much money do you need to feel stable and able to make authentic decisions?

Professionally: What do you need to achieve or accomplish at work to feel satisfied and grounded as a professional?

Physically: How much activity or exercise (physical or mental) do you need to feel fit, happy and healthy?

Spiritually: What do you need to feel spiritually present and grounded?

List 2: What do I want?

Emotionally: What do you want to feel complete in your emotional state? Do you want a partner to share things with or is independence more important to you?

Financially: What would you like your lifestyle to be representative of? How do you define financial happiness? What types of spending habits do you want to partake in?

Professionally: What would you do for a living if money were no object? What are the sorts of things you find yourself pursuing as passions or in your free time?

Physically: How would you like to feel in your body? Do you wish you had more energy?

Spiritually: How would you like your spiritual journey to look? What would feed your soul, if you didn’t put any restrictions on your passion?

List 3: What do I value?

Emotionally: What is at the core of your moral and/ or ethical compass? What evokes compassion and action for you?

Financially: Is financial success important in your life? Do you feel you have a healthy relationship with money?

Professionally: Is what you’re doing professionally something that makes you feel good emotionally, physically, ethically, etc.? Is longevity or experimentation more of your professional landscape?

Physically: Do you value aesthetics and/or bodily health? What are the sorts of things you commit to, to achieve those feelings or desires.

Spiritually: How do you live for and honor your truest self?

Now, take a look at your answers. Are they consistent? Do they reveal a pattern? Does it seem like you’re taking these things into account when making decisions, having tough conversations or approaching new challenges and opportunities? If not, then make a habit of keeping these things in the back of your mind, to not only guide you to success but to help you in continuing to discover your most authentic self and how to serve it.

We know that understanding our most authentic selves is challenge enough. However, think about how knowing yourself can not only help you better understand your values, desires and needs in a situation, it can also help you to think of others as having values, desires and needs, too. So, ask questions, dig deep and honor who you are each and every day!

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